Friday, May 15, 2026

 

TODAY I AM 76

Perhaps this should be a day of reflection. My husband and many of my friends have already passed away.  I know I am blessed. I had a wonderful mother and father. I am close to my sister and brother. God blessed Joe and me with three children and five grandchildren all of whom I am extremely proud. 

My youngest daughter has decided I am (OCD) because I obsess over things. She lists:

1. PHONICS-- I must admit that was a serious focus of my life--to get Systematic, Direct, and Early (SIDE) phonics back in our schools. I ran for chairman of school board twice. I lost once to a doctor who "had a heart for education" (and the backing of the school system which had "too much invested" in the current methodology to change). And once to the president of the university in Dothan who hired the professors who trained our teaches in what they had based their careers upon--Whole Language. Not much hope for change there. One principal told me "they would laugh the teachers off the playground if taught not to say "aint." (And that relates to reading how?)

2. FRENCH HANDSEWING--I did manage to create two Christening gowns and several smocked outfits (Mary Strickland and Elizabeth Wheelock were excellent instructors). 

Lily Claire Butterworth in the Christening gown made for her.


Molly in the Christening gown made by Mimi.
 Megan in the Christening gowns I made for her. 



 My children, Cecily and Drew stand in front with Lucy Lee and others whose parents names I remember, but I cannot remember theirs. As I said, I am 76 with an atrophying brain. I am told that is normal. 

 Lily on the balcony at Wakefield. 

There were many of us handsewing at that time. So, as chairman of the Girls Club Board, I decided that a good fundraiser would be a fashion show of heirloom garments. It was beautiful and quite successful. And it was the beginning of a series of fashion shows that became a bit of a tradition for awhile. 

3. QUILTING--Great hobby for when one is recuperating from hip or knee surgery.

4. GENEALOGY--So, now my sister and I are members of the the Shawnee Heritage, Magna Charta Dames, Jamestown Society, Mayflower Society, Colonial Dames, the Daughters of the American Revolution, Daughters of the Confederacy, and if there were such an organization, children of WWI and WWII patriots. Though I have tried to get a historical society started, most of those interested have passed away. 

5. WRITING HISTORICAL FICTION (Creek Indian family saga), COSY MYSTERIES (MINT JULEPS SERIES), CONTEMPORARY WOMEN'S FICTION  (CHOICES AND SECRETS), WAKEFIELD PLANTATION: HISTORY AND COOKBOOK, AND MAGAZINE ARTICLES mainly for lifestyle magazines. Oh yes, my website (southern-style.com) and this blog. 





Historical Fiction  THE CREEK FAMILY SAGA




Cozy Mystery


CONTEMPORARY WOMEN'S FICTION


6. YOU TUBE--I admit to being obsessed with the Nancy Guthrie Case. I want to know the "rest of the story." For a while I was obsessed with the Karen Read trials. REVENGE WITH MAYA got me hooked, but the  names just got shuffled and the plots shifted from one occupation to another (really just podcasts, but fun to listen to). And now I am watching the DUNCOMBE HOUSE DIARIES (really a fun show in a beautiful part of England). When I need  to just chill, I watch the competition baking shows my granddaughter Molly and I enjoy. 

7. GARDENING-- And now, in my declining years, I am obsessed with gardening. 









I am an avid watcher of GARDEN ANSWER (Laura and Aaron in Eastern Oregon, the mother of all gardening shows),  DIG, PLANT, WATER,  REPEAT (9B IN CALIFORNIA (Janie and Jason). We are 9A in Dothan. GARDENING WITH CREEKSIDE (Jenny and Jerry in North Carolina) grow good Southern plants and work along side Southern Living Plants and Proven Winners. I order a lot of plants from Gardening with Creekside. They are a grower and retail operation close enough to my zone that I feel relatively safe buying from there. 

I also love everything Allen Titmarch does. He has a new house and is now designing his backyard in England (GARDENING WITH ALLEN TITMARCH). HAPPINESS GARDEN is a fantastic place to find curatives to a lot of plant ailments. 

I am growing Amaryllis from seed (they take two to three years to develop bulbs). Yesterday, I started a new flower bed in the back yard by dividing one amaryllis. My shaded, patchy grass is dwindling. 

Look at the Vitex blooms next to the Japanese Magnolia.  So pretty!

My granddaughters love to go to Dothan Nurseries and the Botanical Garden. When my oldest, Lily, comes again, we are going to take a field trip to Ozark to the Neighborhood Daylily Farm. My mother (Jean Gillis Burson) and my grandmother (Eunice Jernigan Gillis) were both gardeners. My mother could do anything but always felt inadequate because she did not go to college. She went to nursing school and won a battle ribbon for her service at the Battle of the Bulge. Then she joined mail order book clubs and read about anything and everything. She was self-educated with intellectual things as well as gifted with creative endeavors. Mother started a children's garden club for me and my friends--the Daffy Dillies. We met in my playhouse a former air conditioner container. She took me with her on her yearly visits to the daylily farm in Headland. I guess that jumpstarted my love of plants. 

I am trying to attract hummingbirds and butterflies. Currently, I have only seen a very chubby squirrel, a redbird and his wife.


Do you think the signage with the metal butterfly and caterpillar is enough of an invitation. Maybe the lantana and butterfly weed.






6. One of my favorite Magazines must be SOUTHERN LIVING. Their recent one, April 2026, I guess, is my favorite. It presents Southern food so well! ENGLISH HOME and ENGLISH GARDEN follow a close second.  It presents Southern food so well. Now inspired I think I will start cooking these old favorites in my 

my newly painted Blue Kitchen.


 
I love Peter Rabbit! Williams Sonoma


My new blue kitchen

Bird Watching Chair and recipe book collection

Redesigned and painted Pantry/Utility 

Gardening does not end with the back door. 


Oh, I forgot to mention Bridge and Mahjong. The square table reminded me. 



The window above the epergne was Joe's mother's.  She saved it from her mother's home on S. St. Andrews. She and her boys enjoyed watching the Peanut Festival gather on the street in front of that house. 






It has been a long time since I last posted.  I have been in the hospital twice since the beginning of the year and have just been too tired, and honestly apathetic,  to think of anything worth writing about. But, now, I am inspired by the garden shows I watch and the beauty of God's world which is truly a balm for body and soul. I know many of you share these interests and if you would like to contact me here is my email. sharmanramsey@gmail.com